Spin the wheel

As I enter the college search process with my eldest child, I’m struck by how much more complicated the process seems than it did when I was in high school. This is partly because I’m not the one going through it now. It’s partly because, for many people, technology and cheap airfares make the world a lot smaller and therefore the college options more vast. Part of it is because I grew up in a fairly rural area where most of us didn’t know about a lot of the options outside a limited geographic area.

And Harold Thomas, our guidance counselor at Shamokin Area High School, did not help the situation.

Mr. Thomas (rest in peace) was a large man, with a voice that can best be described as “pinched.” (Imitating Mr. Thomas’ voice is still a major activity at our high school reunions.)

Mr. Thomas didn’t exactly see the world as filled with college choices.

In high school, we imagined that Mr. Thomas had a large wheel hidden somewhere in his office. Prior to walking into your meeting with him to discuss college options, Mr. Thomas would spin the wheel to determine where you would go.

If you imagine the wheel separated into 12 sections (think “Wheel of Fortune”), 5 of the sections were marked “Penn State – Hazelton Campus”, 4 were marked “Bloomsburg” (then a state college, now university), 1 was marked “other state colleges in Pennsylvania”, and 1 was marked “Penn State – main campus.”

If you suggested to Mr. Thomas that you might want to go to a school other than those on the wheel – say, Juniata, or Muilenberg, or Lafayette, or the Coast Guard Academy, or God forbid, Princeton – you were met with a quizzical stare that said, “Why would you ever want to do  that?”  And then, of course, if you actually wanted to pursue one of those “other” schools, you were pretty much on your own.

I have to say that, while the experience wasn’t terribly inspiring, it wasn’t terribly stressful either.

I see Emma, who is smart and mature and grounded and wonderful (and I’m, of course, not biased in any way) dealing with the dual pressures of seemingly unlimited choices, and worry that she won’t get into any of the schools on her list. And I know that her friends are going through the same thing too. Over the next year, we will explore options, visit Web sites and campuses, talk to people, look at brochures. Even though I’m “in the business”, I will experience it in a completely different way from the other side. It will be fun and scary. And at the end, she will land someplace where she feels like she is “home”, as I did when I visited Juniata for the first time, and as I did the four years that I was there.

I’m glad she has so many choices.

But maybe it was easier to just spin the wheel.



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3 responses to “Spin the wheel

  1. Scott

    My HS counselor was at about the same level. He spent most of his time counseling the kids that had problems, so if you were smart enough and motivated enough to go to college, well, good luck with that.

    So dad simplified the process. He told me I could go anywhere I wanted, as long as it was the University of Colorado at Boulder. Just for kicks I applied to Stanford (ding!) and Penn (cha-ching!) before heading to the University of Colorado at Boulder.

  2. Margaret

    You forgot housewife, nurse, teacher and beautician (oops – I mean cosmetologist) on the “girl’s” wheel!

  3. Jack is a senior and like Emma is smart, mature, grounded and wonderful. The college admission process has been like a second full time job for me since last Spring. Jack never wants to write another essay! In fact, get ready for all of the school specific “select scholarship” applications you get to apply for – more time consuming than the application process and VERY difficult to win. It’s been an interesting journey. He should have all his responses back by 4/15 (then he/we gets 15 days to decide! the “we” part is about the money!)
    Let me know if you need any “counseling”. Or…spin the wheel!

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